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MARSEILLE: A Community of Human Connection – and Dog Poop.

If you have ever walked the streets of Marseille, I’m sure you must have noticed the dog poops so generously sprinkled on the sidewalks. Chances are you have even stepped in one, subsequently smearing it on the pavement for the next few meters trying to get rid of it. Am I close? However, this shouldn’t deter you from visiting, or loving, the city. Au contraire!

Although never yet coming into close contact with one, the many dog poops have become a significant part of what I appreciate about the city. Let me tell you why.

To be honest, in the beginning I felt a slight frustration. Having to constantly look down and step over piles and smears taking up space on the sometimes-tiny sidewalks was a little annoying. The steaming and stinking can also be a little so-so.

Then the questions started emerging. As someone who is deeply invested in all things community, I found myself wondering what the dog poops was telling me about the Marseille community. Why is seemingly no one picking up their dog’s deposits? Is everyone just okay with it? – even all the people whom I see so vigorously trying to get the poop off their shoes? Is there no system in place for how to deal with the poops? Like other places where little bags are sold to dog owners, signs are reminding to pick up, and so on. Is this something people talk about or is it simply one of those minor annoyances that we really don’t give any attention to?

Pausing the poop reflections for a minute to tell you about another thing I’ve noticed in Marseille.

Marseille, A City of Human Contact

When strolling the neighborhoods of the city, people you pass on the street will look you in the eyes, they will say Bonjour, and often they will even smile. In my opinion, this is remarkable for a city the size of Marseille. With more than 800.000 citizens it’s comparable to Copenhagen, but what a difference! Don’t get me wrong, I love Copenhagen, but connecting with people on the street can be pretty difficult. Of course, if you walk around the shopping streets of the Vieux-Port or Opéra area, don’t expect a lot of interaction with your fellow shoppers. However, you might still receive a little warmth from the local shop owner if you are open to it – it’s a reciprocal thing, so you need to contribute yourself. As a minimum, you should always say bonjour or bonsoir when entering any kind of place. Basics are important.

Another thing to notice, Marseille is gorgeous! There are so many interesting things to discover; the details of the old buildings, the street art, the laundry hanging from a window. A treat for greedy eyes. Add the possibility of a smile and a greeting, you really should lift your gaze and meet the world around you.

However, circling back to the dog poops, you might want to look down as well.

This is where the challenge arises.

How can you admire and take part in all the beauty and connection around you while constantly looking down to avoid stepping in s**t? Because you don’t want to miss out. Not even a little. But you really don’t want poopy shoes either. So.. HOW? It’s actually not the first time I’ve asked myself this exact question, which makes me think that other people might have asked themselves this question as well. The question first occurred years ago in Varanasi, India and the poop in question was, naturally, cow poop. Different city, different poop, same question.  

Determined to figure out this conundrum I entered a new phase of my poop-catalyzed process; the practicing phase. Around Marseille I ventured, hesitantly at first but soon moving like a ninja, swiftly navigating the minefield while keeping up conversation with my travel partner, and never missing a friendly comment or surprising detail. Zen travel; complete awareness of the surrounding world. At least that’s the short version. The long version includes a bit more stumbling and frustration as well as lengthy reflections on not changing circumstances but instead your reaction to them, the trainability of the mind and the endless nature of awareness.

Both versions are concluded with big admiration for this ancient port city so ready to bombard your senses and warm your heart. After spending just a few weeks here, my fascination-from-afar has turned into a full-blown love.

Circling back to the question of what poops in the street says about a community – maybe it says something about what is valued in that community. Sure, ideally we’d have it all but if you have to choose, would you rather have clean streets and limited human connection or would you prefer lots of connection with the risk of a little poop on your shoes? Maybe we don’t have the capacity or the resources to ensure perfection at all times, so we prioritize. Personally, I’ll take the connection, and I have even come to appreciate the dog poop as a catalyst for my expanded awareness.

In Marseille as in life, look up but also look down.

dog poop in marseille

Marseillaise minefield..

Talk To The Person Next To You

We might not come from the same place and maybe we believe that we couldn’t possibly have anything to talk about, but we do share this experience of being alive. Maybe that’s all the common ground we need.

It was a spring morning in the Bywater neighborhood in New Orleans. I was feeling raw, and honestly just wanted to stay clear of everything and everyone to protect my overwhelmed nervous system. I went by the local coffee shop, and when I fumbled with my cash, desperately trying to count out the right amount before imploding, I mumbled something like “sorry, I’m having a blurry day”. This might have triggered different reactions or no reaction at all, but on this magical morning the girl behind the counter said, “I’m right there with you”.

This might seem unremarkable, but to me it made all the difference. Based on the assumption that the world and the people in it could only add more discomfort, I had temporarily excluded myself. By allowing me my sensitivity and offering me companionship, the girl behind the counter had re-included me.

We don’t have to tell strangers our biggest struggles or become best friends. We can keep it simple; acknowledge each other’s existence, offer a single sentence of validation, share just a tiny bit of ourselves. The impact might be huge.

It’s so easy to just rest on our default setting; we give each other the once-over, categorize based on appearance, deem relevant or not, and then we either move closer or move on. And that is if we even dare to look up.

Once I did this experiment when walking all the way along a nature stretch in Copenhagen. My objective was to connect, but even eye contact turned out to be almost impossible. By the end I felt depleted and lonely.

We might shield ourselves in general or we compute based on the before-mentioned default setting.  However, it’s possible to overrule this and choose a more indiscriminate contact. I mean, by talking to strangers we are almost guaranteed to have our horizon expanded, to experience a sense of recognition, to feel validated and supported, to have our assumptions challenged and our minds stretched, to receive new perspectives, inspiration, ideas. Even just one of these options would make it all worth it, yes?

Years ago, I used to be a very active member of CouchSurfing where we not only talk to strangers; we invite them to crash on our couch, spend days with them, learn about their world. I’ve had some of the most meaningful encounters with some amazing people who started out as strangers but turned into significant forces of inspiration. Spending time with Jenna from Newfoundland inspired me to buy a ticket to India and to start a blog, both which turned out to be life changing. Kyle saved me from staying in a crack house hostel in Hawaii and in the process providing new friends and adventures. Soniya from Iran gave me wisdom and calmness when I was exhausted from travel and heartache, and because of her I sometimes make my coffee with cardamom seeds. Countless others made me reconsider everything I thought I knew and reassures me that even if it sometimes feels like the world is breaking apart from conflict, there’re people whom I can trust spread out across the planet.

It doesn’t matter if we come from completely different backgrounds, we are alive on the same planet and in the space between us we have the choice to create something new; something that will enrich our lives and make us grow. isn’t that what we’re essentially here to do?